Prophetic guidance in raising children

[سواها قلبي]

The necessity of justice between children:

( إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ )

God Almighty said: {Indeed, God commands justice and goodness} (1).

On the authority of Al-Numan bin Bashir, may God be pleased with them both, he said: My father gave me some of his money in charity, and my mother said: I will not be satisfied until the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, bears witness. So my father went to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, to testify to my charity, and the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said to him: “Did you do this to all of your children?” He said: No. He said: “Fear God and be just with your children.” So my father returned and returned that charity. Agreed upon. (2).

In a narration: “I do not bear witness to injustice.”

And in a narration: He said: “Would you be happy for them to be equal to you in righteousness? He said: Yes. He said: Then no.”

[the explanation]

Justice is required in everything. It is necessary in the treatment of children and their upbringing so that hatred and animosity do not arise between them. Therefore, the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not bear witness to the charity of one who does not treat his children equally, and he called it injustice. He commanded him to be just among his children, and the predecessors, may God have mercy on them, loved to equate between children.

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(1) Surah An-Nahl, verse: 90.
(2) Kh. 5/258 (2650), AD 1623.



Their children even in the Qiblah (1).

[the benefits]

- The necessity of justice in every matter.

- Prohibiting giving preference to some children over others in gifts.






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(1) Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned this in his book Tuhfat al-Mawdud.

[سواها قلبي]

The virtue of being kind to girls and raising them

On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said: A woman came to me with two of her daughters and asked me, but she did not find anything with me except one date, so I gave it to her, so she took it and divided it between her two daughters, but she did not eat anything from it. Then she got up and left with her two daughters, so the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, entered upon me, so she told him her story, and the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said. May God bless him and grant him peace: Whoever is afflicted with something by girls and treats them kindly, they will be a shield for him from the Fire.” Narrated by Muslim (1).


On the authority of Anas, may God be pleased with him, he said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Whoever supports two female slaves (meaning two girls) until they reach puberty, he and I will come on the Day of Resurrection, and he will join his fingers.” Narrated by Muslim (2).

[the explanation]

The girl is a weak human being, and she was not created to be independent on her own. She often needs someone to support her, and since belittling and despising girls was a reprehensible pre-Islamic custom, the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, wanted to raise them, honor them, and be kind to them, and promised him a great reward.

[the benefits]

- The virtue of raising girls and providing for them is a reason for entering Paradise.

- The Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, urged kindness to girls due to their weakness and need.

(1) M 2629.
(2) M 2631.

[سواها قلبي]

The virtue of sponsoring an orphan and the desirability of being kind to him


God Almighty said:

( فَأَمَّا الْيَتِيمَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ )

(So as for the orphan, do not oppress [him].)

76:8 ( وَيُطْعِمُونَ الطَّعَامَ عَلَىٰ حُبِّهِ مِسْكِينًا وَيَتِيمًا وَأَسِيرًا )

(And they give food in spite of love for it to the needy, the orphan, and the captive,)






On the authority of Sahl bin Saad, he said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “I and the one who looks after an orphan will be in Paradise like this,” and he pointed with his index and middle fingers and separated them. Narrated by Al-Bukhari (3). (What is meant by the sponsor of an orphan is the one who takes care of his affairs.)

On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “The one who takes care of an orphan - for him or for someone else - I and he are like these two in Paradise,” and the narrator pointed with his index and middle fingers. Narrated by Muslim (4). (And the meaning for him or for someone else is: his relative or someone else’s). foreign to him) (5).

[the explanation]

Sponsoring an orphan, being kind to him, and carrying out his affairs are among the deeds that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, desired, due to his weakness and the humiliation that befalls him by losing his breadwinner. For that, the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, was promised a great reward.

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(1) Surah Ad-Dhuha, verse: 9.
(2) Surah Al-Insan, verse: 8.
(3) M. 10/436 (6005).
(4) M 2983.
(5) Riyadh Al-Salehin, p. 120.

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[the benefits]

- The virtue of sponsoring an orphan and the encouragement of it.

- This is a reason for entering Paradise and raising ranks therein.

- This includes an orphan, even if he is a relative.

[سواها قلبي]

Strictness in consuming the wealth of orphans (1)

Allah the Almighty said: {Indeed, those who devour the property of orphans unjustly are only consuming into their bellies fire, and they will burn in a Blaze} (2).

On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, on the authority of the Prophet, may Allah’s prayers and peace be upon him, who said: “Avoid the seven deadly sins.” They said: “O Messenger of Allah, what are they?” He said: “Associating partners with Allah, magic, killing a soul that Allah has forbidden except by right, consuming usury, consuming the wealth of an orphan, turning away on the day of battle (i.e. fleeing from the army when meeting the infidels), and accusing chaste, believing women of adultery.” Agreed upon (3). (The meaning of deadly sins is: destructive.)

On the authority of Khuwaylid ibn Umar al-Khuza’i, may God be pleased with him, who said: The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “O God, I am making the rights of the two weak ones more difficult: the orphan and the woman.” Narrated by al-Nasa’i (4). (The meaning of making difficult is to inflict hardship - i.e. sin - on the one who neglects their rights.)

[Explanation]

The Shari’ah has been very strict in warning against violating the rights of
the orphan - who is one of the


He lost his father before reaching puberty - and God threatened him with Hellfire, and the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, considered it one of the deadly sins.

[Benefits]

- Intimidation against eating an orphan's money unjustly.

- It is one of the major deadly sins.

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(1) See: Tanbih al-Ghafilin 153, Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi 6/38.
(2) Surat al-Nisa, verse: 10.
(3) Kh 5/393 (2766), No. 89.
(4) Al-Nawawi said it in Riyad al-Salihin, and al-Albani authenticated it in Sahihah 1015 and attributed it to Ibn Majah and Ibn Hibban and said: Al-Hakim authenticated it and al-Dhahabi agreed with him.