Prophetic guidance in raising children

[سواها قلبي]

The necessity of justice between children:

( إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ )

God Almighty said: {Indeed, God commands justice and goodness} (1).

On the authority of Al-Numan bin Bashir, may God be pleased with them both, he said: My father gave me some of his money in charity, and my mother said: I will not be satisfied until the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, bears witness. So my father went to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, to testify to my charity, and the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said to him: “Did you do this to all of your children?” He said: No. He said: “Fear God and be just with your children.” So my father returned and returned that charity. Agreed upon. (2).

In a narration: “I do not bear witness to injustice.”

And in a narration: He said: “Would you be happy for them to be equal to you in righteousness? He said: Yes. He said: Then no.”

[the explanation]

Justice is required in everything. It is necessary in the treatment of children and their upbringing so that hatred and animosity do not arise between them. Therefore, the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not bear witness to the charity of one who does not treat his children equally, and he called it injustice. He commanded him to be just among his children, and the predecessors, may God have mercy on them, loved to equate between children.

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(1) Surah An-Nahl, verse: 90.
(2) Kh. 5/258 (2650), AD 1623.



Their children even in the Qiblah (1).

[the benefits]

- The necessity of justice in every matter.

- Prohibiting giving preference to some children over others in gifts.






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(1) Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned this in his book Tuhfat al-Mawdud.